but for the record i’m interested in orthodoxy, monasticism, mysticism, feminism/womanism, eschatology, reason and faith, existentialism, and that slow-wafting smell of the spirit’s touch aka the kingdom of God.
a ton of anonymous messages in my inbox essentially about my reads and theology and i’m all like haha suckers i’m going to portland this weekend and camping under the stars with my besties and drinking beer and dancing the night away at a wedding on saturday ain’t nobody got time for that
social anxiety is heightened in the aftermath of trauma. if you or someone you know has gone through a traumatic, life-altering experience, for god’s sake be a human about their anxieties and fears. do not shame them.
many of my social relationships in the past two years have been constituted by guilt that i’m not doing enough, saying enough, or being “happy” enough for those i found and find myself around. this, this i feel constantly from my Christian friends.
just because you cannot see a wound, doesn’t mean you should pour metaphorical salt on it.
i implore you, take seriously the mental anxieties, stresses, and disorders of those around you, and do not belittle another’s pain simply because you do not understand it and do not like the way it manifests itself. consider how your understanding of the Gospel, what is socialized as “normal,” and how those healing from trauma may view these understandings as blocks between them and the only Healer. speak less and listen more. listen to the silence of those around you whose silence says more than they ever could.
and, if the traumatized is you: find solidarity in the few who quiet themselves to sit with you in your pain. you will find that you have met Jesus.
I can only imagine that tumblr is incredibly useful (to me) for the following two reasons:
1. To write
2. To bitch into the abyss
Being human means having to learn and live in the shitty in order to enjoy the good.
They forgot to tell me that people would ask my husband about his job, and me about the kids,
forgot to tell me that the company for which I work
will have more rights that I will,
forgot to tell me that my body will be up for debate in
political circles, internet forums, the comment sections
by people who cannot name the parts of woman
that make a child,
but will tell you the cells inside a womb
are more important than those around them.
They didn’t mention that if I tried to be
a career woman and a mother
that people would ask how?
That trying to have it all
would earn criticism
instead of praise.
What do you want to be when you grow up?
I am going to be a woman,
but I’d like to be a human, too."
friend-zoning guys is horrible. it is disgusting. funzone them instead. send them to a small childs park so they can cry with the other babies when they dont get what they want.
In fact a mature person does not fall in love, he rises in love. The word ’fall’ is not right. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. They cannot manage and they cannot stand – they find a woman and they are gone, they find a man and they are gone. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have that integrity to stand alone.
A mature person has the integrity to be alone. And when a mature person gives love, he gives without any strings attached to it: he simply gives. And when a mature person gives love, he feels grateful that you have accepted his love, not vice versa. He does not expect you to be thankful for it – no, not at all, he does not even need your thanks. He thanks you for accepting his love. And when two mature persons are in love, one of the greatest paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone; they are together so much so that they are almost one. But their oneness does not destroy their individuality, in fact, it enhances it: they become more individual.
Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. How can you dominate the person you love? Just think over it. Domination is a sort of hatred, anger, enmity. How can you think of dominating a person you love? You would love to see the person totally free, independent; you will give him more individuality. That’s why I call it the greatest paradox: they are together so much so that they are almost one, but still in that oneness they are individuals. Their individualities are not effaced – they have become more enhanced. The other has enriched them as far as their freedom is concerned.
Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.
Osho (via thatkindofwoman)